Plausible Deniability: Men, Women, Alcohol, and Date Rape Charges

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Some may not know this, but there was a time centuries ago when the concept of rape was not illegal in many cultures and countries.  If a woman did not have a husband to protect her, a father to protect her, or rough and tough brothers to protect her, it was very easy for a woman to become a victim of rape.

As times changed and more and more laws were passed to govern behavior in society, rape became a felony offense.  If a man was charged with raping a woman, and was convicted, he could be locked up in prison for years.

THE EMERGENCE OF DATE RAPE

Soon, in the latter part of the 20th Century, a new and different type of sexual assault came to the forefront of the mainstream.  Led in part by a story centered on an incident on a college campus involving a young lady named Katie Koestner (who was featured in Time Magazine in June 1991), a concept known as ‘acquaintance rape’ or soon to be known as ‘date rape’ emerged.  The primary difference between date rape and conventional rape scenarios is that the male perpetrator was not a ‘stranger’ to the woman.  It was a man who she experienced one or more social interactions with prior to the sexual assault.

In fairness to many men, there have been many women over the last fifteen years or longer who have been found guilty of invalid and untrue date rape charges.  One notable case involves the former Long Beach, California high school football star, Brian Banks.  Banks was falsely accused of date rape and served five years in prison before finally being released in 2012 after his accuser, Waneta Gibson, confessed to him that she had completely fabricated the date rape story.

THE ISSUE OF CONSENT

At the center of every date rape incident is the issue of proper consent.  In order for any man to be found innocent of any charge of date rape, it must be proven in a court of law that his female sex partner granted him proper consent prior to the two engaging in sexual activities.

For example, a woman verbally communicating to her male sex companion, “I agree to have sex with you” would be representative of proper consent.  A woman voluntarily taking off her clothes and initiating physical contact with her male companion would generally be construed as another means of a woman offering consent to engage in sexual activities with a man.

Being more realistic, sometimes sex ‘just happens.’  In many instances of consensual sex, there is no ‘official’ verbal communication of consent by the woman.  Sex just happens in the ‘heat of the moment.’  Consequently, charges of date rape often can become very tricky for men.

ALCOHOL AND DRUGS

If there are at least two factors that can cause a man to find himself in a very ‘compromising position’ when it comes to running the risk of being accused of date rape, it is when a man chooses to engage in sexual activities with a woman while she is inebriated, or while she has drugs in her system.

Ideally, no man should engage in sexual activities with a woman for the very first time while she has alcohol in her system or drugs (e.g. marijuana, cocaine, crystal meth, heroin, etc.) in her system.  In today’s society, this is almost like a man inviting a woman to charge him with date rape.  In the 21st Century, alcohol and first-time sex simply do not mix.  Same thing goes for drugs and first-time sex.

PLAUSIBLE DENIABILITY

Believe it or not, there are some women who intentionally want to consume alcohol prior to engaging in non-relationship / non-monogamous sex with a man for the first time.  Why would that be?  Because many women – by their own admission – want to be protected by some degree of plausible deniability.  Many women do not want to be accountable for their own decision to engage in short-term and/or non-monogamous sex with new male acquaintances for fear of being labeled a ‘slut’ or a ‘whore’ by those in their social circle.  So many women will make sure they have some factor, such as alcohol or drugs, that can provide them with plausible deniability if word gets around of their impulsive and promiscuous sexual tendencies.

This provides yet another reason men must protect themselves against a potential invalid and unfair date rape charge from a woman.

A few tips:

  • Let women know verbally in an upfront, specific, and straightforwardly honest manner that you are interested in engaging in sexual activities with them prior to engaging in sex with women for the very first time
  • Make sure that the woman of interest provides you with some sort of consent and verbal agreement to engage in sex with you
  • Avoid allowing a woman to consume alcohol and/or drugs prior to engaging in sex with a woman for the very first time; Make sure the woman is sober and knows exactly what decisions she is making
  • Never be too physically rough or overly aggressive with women prior to your very first time having sex with them; This type of behavior can backfire on you later if the woman experiences ‘second day guilt’ and regret after the sexual encounter has concluded

Nothing can ruin a man’s public reputation than a charge of date rape or any other form of sexual assault.  Guard your sexual reputation carefully.

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Alan Roger Currie is the author of a number of eBooks, paperbacks, and audiobooks, and is best known for the ground-breaking best-seller "Mode One: Let the Women Know What You're REALLY Thinking"; Currie is also a professional Men's Dating Coach who has worked with clients all over the world, and has conducted speaking engagements and workshops in many cities both in the U.S. and internationally. Contact him at coaching@modeone.net
  • Morpheus2275

    Tip #5 – Record every encounter. You can find some good hidden cameras on Amazon. 🙂

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      I don’t think anybody should be capturing the private parts of a person without his/her consent. In India is an offence, might be at your place too.

      • Morpheus2275

        And I don’t think men should be locked up for years based on false accusations. Good thing I don’t live in India. Because in America, depending on your state, it’s not an offense. There are at least 2 cases I can think of where black men were falsely accused of sexual assault, but when the accusers found out that the encounters were recorded, they dropped their cases, which shows they were lying.

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          If one really wants to record sexual encounters then why shouldn’t such person tell such person so before having sex. I think anybody would want to know that. Also, some people might not like getting recorded while having sex. Is that beacause you think they might not consent to sex then?

  • 2pacck

    Once again shows women are adult children and the the laws cater to that. How can you want real equality when you’re not able to make your own decisions and live with them when it comes to your own body…women need their bodies governed is sad within itself. Yeah and get a camera!

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