5 Questions that Men ASSUME are ‘Rude’ but are really NOT

What questions are considered 'socially appropriate' and 'polite' versus 'rude' or 'disrespectful' is highly subjective and is often determined by a man or woman's own social programming and personal sensibilities

I have a question … about questions:  What questions do women universally consider to be “off limits” or “blatantly rude” when directed at a man of interest?

The reason I ask is because I have rarely if ever heard a woman tell a group of women, “NEVER ask a man THIS question … and I mean, NEVER!”   Has any man or woman reading this article ever seen a list of “questions you should never ask a man on a first or second date?”  A list of “questions you should never ask your long-term boyfriend, fiancé, or husband?”

Unless I am being very forgetful, I have never in my adult life viewed or heard about such a list.

Yet, I constantly hear men telling other men, “Never, ever say THIS to a woman …” or “Never, ever ask a woman you are on a date with THIS question …”  I call bullshit.  I say, if there is something you want to know about a woman, ask the damn question.  Do not place too much emphasis on whether or not your question will be perceived as ‘rude’ and/or ‘disrespectful.’  If there is something you really want to know that is going to help you determine if a woman will make a high quality and desirable a) casual sex lover, b) long-term girlfriend, or c) fiancée and eventual wife, then you need to ask that damn question.

In this article, I am going to highlight at least FIVE (5) QUESTIONS that men should never shy away from asking a woman, despite what your friends may say or how that woman may react or respond.  These are questions that are usually important contributors to determining if the woman is worth investing any more time (and money) into pursuing her romantic companionship, or even her strictly sexual companionship.

RELEVANT QUESTION #5:  ASKING A WOMAN IF SHE IS THE TYPE OF WOMAN WHO APPRECIATES STRAIGHTFORWARD HONESTY … or IS SHE THE TYPE OF WOMAN WHO ACTUALLY IS RECEPTIVE TO ‘PLEASANT LIES & BELIEVABLE BULLSHIT’ RIGHT AFTER YOU FIRST MEET HER

Comment:  I know some men are reading this article and saying to themselves, “I would never ever ask a woman that question! Especially in my first conversation with them!!  No way!!”  And for each man saying that to himself, I bet there is a 90% chance or greater that they have had at least a dozen women who joined them for two or more lunch dates or dinner dates that they paid for … and those women enjoyed their flattering and entertaining (and pleasantly disingenuous) conversation … and then, they never ever heard from those women again.

I have asked this question to many women within the first five-to-ten minutes of my first conversation with them.  Sometimes, I ask it in a very lighthearted manner … and other times, a bit more serious.  “So … are you a woman who appreciates candid and provocatively forthright conversations? Or, are you a woman who loves to engage in basic, conventional conversations that are full of plausible lies and insincere, yet flattering and entertaining comments that are pleasing to your ego and your ears?”
 
You will be surprised at some of the responses (and stunned facial expressions) that you will receive from women.

RELEVANT QUESTION #4:  ASKING A WOMAN WHO HAS DECLARED HERSELF AS ‘SINGLE’ and ‘UNATTACHED’ DOES SHE CURRENTLY HAVE ONE OR MORE CASUAL SEX LOVERS a.k.a. ‘FUCK BUDDIES’

Comment:  This particularly applies to women who you may meet on one or more of the popular dating apps or online matchmaking services (e.g., Tinder, Match.com, Plenty of Fish, BlackPeopleMeet.com, et al).  I tell men all the time:  just because a woman lists herself as ‘single’ or ‘unattached’ does not necessarily mean that she is not currently sexually active with one or more male partners.

Just in the last roughly eighteen months, I have had a number of women who I met via Tinder or Match.com confess to me (usually during or right after an episode of hot, kinky phone sex) that they currently had at least one casual sex lover.  One woman admitted she had as many as three semi-regular fuck buddies.   You won’t know if you don’t ask.

RELEVANT QUESTION #3:  ASKING A WOMAN WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME SHE WAS TESTED FOR HER SEXUAL HEALTH (i.e., Sexually Transmitted Diseases a.k.a. STDs) BEFORE YOU TWO ENGAGE IN (UNPROTECTED) SEXUAL RELATIONS FOR THE VERY FIRST TIME

Comment:  I recently recorded a video podcast related to the importance of practicing safe sex.  Never assume that any woman is clean and sexually healthy.  Some of the most beautiful and wholesome looking women in the world have tested positive for an STD in their life.  Trust.

RELEVANT QUESTION #2:  ASKING A WOMAN IF SHE HAS EVER HAD AN ABORTION or A MISCARRIAGE BEFORE YOU DROP TO YOUR KNEE AND PROPOSE MARRIAGE TO HER

Comment:  I realize this may seem like a very ‘sensitive’ question to many men, but if you view a woman you are dating as potential ‘wifey material,’ this is a question that inevitably has to be asked.  Some women might start crying when you ask them this question, while other women may get angry and begin cursing you out, but the fact of the matter is, this question needs to be asked.  Even in the event that you fail to receive a straightforwardly honest response from the woman.

RELEVANT QUESTION #1:  ASKING A WOMAN IF SHE IS WILLING TO SIGN AN IRONCLAD PRENUPTIAL AGREEMENT BEFORE YOU EXCHANGE WEDDING VOWS WITH HER

Comment:  This question only applies to men who are earning approximately $200,000 per year or higher.  At bare minimum, approximately $150,000 per year.  Some women (particularly those who are broke and unemployed) will marry a man earning a six-figure, seven-figure, or eight-figure salary for the sole and specific purpose of gaining access to that man’s financial resources and material possessions.  Never allow the romantic concept of “true love” to cloud your objectivity and sense of sound judgment when it comes to financial matters.

NEVER BE AFRAID TO ASK A WOMAN ANYTHING THAT YOU REALLY WANT TO KNOW

Some men overemphasize the social convention of being “nice” to women and being “pleasant” and “polite” with women.  I say, fuck that.  BE REAL and BE AUTHENTIC.  If there is some information that you really want to know about a woman … ASK HER WITHOUT HESITATION or APOLOGY.

Harsh truth beats a pleasant lie any day of the week.

Note: Columnist Alan Roger Currie will not have a published article posted on the following dates due to his travel schedule and/or vacation plans:

  • Monday, September 3, 2018
  • Monday, September 10, 2018
  • Monday, October 15, 2018
  • Monday, October 22, 2018
  • Monday, November 26, 2018
  • Monday, December 24, 2018
  • Monday, December 31, 2018

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Alan Roger Currie is the author of a number of eBooks, paperbacks, and audiobooks, and is best known for the ground-breaking best-seller "Mode One: Let the Women Know What You're REALLY Thinking"; Currie is also a professional Men's Dating Coach who has worked with clients all over the world, and has conducted speaking engagements and workshops in many cities both in the U.S. and internationally. Contact him at coaching@modeone.net