Why Black men need to step up and stop whining about women


You see them everywhere, even on this platform whining about how women aren’t fussing with them…how they getting curved and played at the same time.

How society has set such high standards for women that it’s next to impossible for black and African men to get women anymore.

I mean, chill with a bunch of average guys in the bar or wherever and they will get gassed up when a conversation about women comes up. Even here in Africa, the vibe is still the same. It’s about how lasses only care about money and how they aren’t shit…and most importantly how they need to tone down and lower their standards.

Well, standards have been set and it’s far too far gone to lower them now. The elephant in the room is what are you going to do about it?

Now if you must reckon, the remedy to get women all over the world has always been the same and it has been like that for thousands of years.

Either you are extremely good looking; tall, well-built and with a fresh good beard. If not that, then you must be extremely successful, powerful, influential or very rich; Way fun and a little funny too just to make sure she’s marinated well enough before you slide in.

These are the rules and we all know them.  The only problem is that none of us want to subscribe to them.

We just want to sit at home, downing bottles of beer and eating chicken wings and expect pussy to come trickling down from the chimney.

I’m pretty sure by now you know the dynamics of the world don’t work like that. You have to put in work to get something but we’d rather just lazy around and complain about how African and black women are so full of it; how they done changed!

Again I pose the question, what are you doing about it apart from hating and whining from behind your computer screen?

Because women are really doing a lot of shit to make sure they look good and set the standards right. They are eating healthier, hitting the gym, undergoing surgery and shit just to make sure they meet men’s expectations.

Now they look fly n shit all up in our instagram handles and we’re here dying of thirst. They are doing this shit for you but only those of you who have stepped up.

The men who bring something to the table and the wow factor which will make those panties finally come off.

The men who can take them out for dinner in a fancy restaurant and pop bottles of Moet in the club soon after that; the good looking guys with good jobs and good looks…men who take care of themselves and their health; Men who smell good and dress even better because trust me I’ve never heard any of them complaining that women out here are changing.

They are getting laid every single day by multiple women who are constantly buzzing up his phone every single time asking when they’ll be hooking up.

So back to you my brotha…are you going to sit there and continue whining about women having double standards because that ain’t gonna change or are you going to do something about it?

Are you going to get your ass up and look for a job…or start saving up some money? Are you going to take care of yourself and hit the gym?

Are you going to start thinking and come up with some crazy innovation like these silicon boys and start playing the big leagues?

Well, the choice is entirely yours.

The whining though, that has to stop!



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  • Raphael Williams

    I think this guy is making a lot of assumptions of the men. This is borderline in the area of derrick Jackson. Yes men can improve. Everyone can make improvements, but in most cases what women are attracted to are money and genetics. These are difficult to unchangeable attributes like being tall , or a certain skin color that may denote your economic class to them ( we know the latter is not true but this is what many females think but wont say because they know it is fallacious ). The other attributes are all subjective ( fit enough or fun/funny)

    I’ve been saying this over and over again and I cannot stress it enough. If you want to really observe the nature of women do not go to the club and talk to them. Do not go to the strip club. Go to a corporate breasturant(hooters, tilted kilt) and observe who the seevers flock to. These environments are great opservation spots because they are a complete gynocracy. Where women occupy all levels of decision making in the immediate environment from management to waitresses. Male managers tend to be simps by necessity or the servers will quit. This environment allows the women to show their hypergamic nature and utilisation of sexuality unchecked.

    I have seen women go out of their way to hug on and flirt with all sorts of men when they aren’t even their current waitress. I’ve seen them hover over broke, slobby fat men, old broke men, and of course your stereotypical tall, young , physically fit men as well as the guys that clearly pull up newer mercedes or Teslas.

    My point is, boiling it down to “men go to the gym” is a strawman. This kind of rhetoric is almost analogous to feminists telling women they are “strong and independent” and to be career minded. When these women finally achieve their career goals they realize that was the wrong approach once they become spinsters.

    The author is setting up a lot of men for bitterness and failure down the road after they have spent all this time in the gym and the women now on his “level” are still attracted to ain’t sh*t men or men that are the physical opposite to himself. This is because the author has spent too much time observing women and interacting with women where duplicity is the top strategy , not outright hypergamy in a gynocracy. A gynocracy allows women to completely ignore men without being frowned on by other women and some men in even a very strict corporate setting.

    This is where you want to go to base your postulations of female behaviors.

  • Cloud Air

    i don’t whine- i try to increase my value to women.. i have been doing this for years.. i’d say i’m coming upon about 10yrs of self improvement and i am hoping to get to self actualization soon.. on this path i went from having ZERO attention from women, to getting a few women interested in me..

    after being single for like 11yrs, i finally got a g/f last yr and she was very pretty.. unfortunately i had to break it off because she was always arguing with me.. and even though i think she was crazy- i still somewhat view it as: she didn’t value me enough to act right

    so i feel like i still have a way to go as far as increasing my value to women.. but like i said- after almost 10 yrs of self improvement, i tend to think i’m almost at the point where i can truly become a man that a woman would love to be with

    i’ve had girls say to me “wow i can’t believe you’re single” and that is EXTREMELY different from my previous experiences where women HATED MY GUTS

    this is one thing i can say i like about being a man- we can be hated on by women, but we can maneuver in life to a point where the tables turn.. i feel that the tables will turn for me one day… like i said i went from ZERO attention from women, to having two girls talking about marrying me last year.. so if i stay on this path and conquer the dragons, i may eventually find a wife

    i say stay focused on your goals and plans and the rest will probably come to u… and trust your first instincts with women because u don’t want them to waste ur time

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