Sexual Duplicity: Women and Their Prudish Façades

Ever since I published my first book, Mode One: Let the Women Know What You’re REALLY Thinking, I have had many men ask me, “Alan … what was your first major epiphany that led to you developing your Mode One philosophy and principles?”  My response is always, “When I first became aware of the concept of ‘sexual duplicity’ on behalf of women.”

To be duplicitous is the same as being ‘two-faced.’  For example, anytime a man or a woman behaves in one manner when they are in the company of one group of people, but then they behave totally differently around another group of people, that means that this man or woman is duplicitous.

One example would be if a man never uses profane language when he is around people who he knows are religious and attend church every Sunday, but then when he is around his friends and acquaintances who never attend church, he uses profanity every chance he gets.  This would be a man who is duplicitous as it relates to the language he uses around others.

A common example of a sexually duplicitous woman would be a woman who quickly reveals her erotically uninhibited (i.e., kinky) side and her promiscuous and/or polyamorous side when she is in the company of a womanizing Alpha male, but then when she is in the company of a man who she perceives as a financially generous Beta male, she all the sudden begins to carry herself as if she is extremely prudish and strictly monogamy-oriented.

Women’s sexual duplicity is the primary motivation for why so many women are manipulative with men.  In other words, if the world was full of nothing but womanizing Alpha males, women would not really have any motivation to be manipulative and/or duplicitous with men.  Similarly, if the world was full of nothing but financially generous and fawning Beta males, women’s motivation to be manipulative and duplicitous with men would be severely diminished.

The main reason why women are highly manipulative and sexually duplicitous is because most women want to ‘have their cake and eat it too.’  They want the best of both worlds.  These manipulative women want at least one man in their life who has a very entertaining and emotionally empathetic personality – and hopefully, on top of that, very financially generous – and they want another man in their life who is handsome, sexy, and extremely satisfying in bed.

Actually, I argue in my book, The Beta Male Revolution, that most women want as many as THREE different men in their lives:  One man just for sex (what I refer to as ‘The Total Alpha male’ type), one man for long-term romantic companionship (either an ‘Alpha male with a few Beta traits’ or a ‘Beta male with a few Alpha traits’), and another man strictly for non-physical, non-sexual platonic friendship only (what I refer to as ‘The Total Beta male’ type).

Only women who are virgins are as innocent and prudish as they present themselves to be.  For all other women?  They are just presenting men with a disingenuous ‘prudish façade.’  Nothing more, nothing less.

Women who are manipulative and duplicitous feel like they have something to lose with all groups of men.

With the ‘Total Alpha male’ types, women do not want to come across as ‘too prudish’ or ‘too monogamy-oriented’ because that might prevent them from experiencing some very pleasurable and satisfying casual sex that they crave very badly.

With the ‘Alpha-Beta’ types and/or the ‘Beta-Alpha’ types, women want a man in their life that is going to keep them entertained and provide them with enjoyable social companionship, a man who is willing to help them raise children, and a man who is willing to offer them some degree of financial assistance and/or support.

And finally, with the ‘Total Beta male’ types, women will frequently use their beauty and sex appeal as a ‘carrot-on-the-stick’ to attract a ‘male girlfriend’ type or ‘play brother’ type who will flatter them and listen to their problems and frustrations that usually result from their dating experiences with the other types of men mentioned above.

For example, some men will always assert, “No woman wants to be treated like a slut.”  That is not true.  Women who are manipulative and sexually duplicitous LOVE for womanizing Alpha males to treat them like a kinky slut.  Conversely, these same women hate it when a financially generous Beta male treats them in the exact same manner.

On the flip side, women who are manipulative and sexually duplicitous LOVE for financially generous Beta males to treat them like a ‘prudish good girl’ type, but these same women hate it when a womanizing Alpha male treats them in the exact same manner.

Here is what you have to keep in mind when thinking about women who are manipulative and sexually duplicitous:

Women rarely, if ever, end up married to their favorite male sex partner.  Rarely.  To take it a step further, women rarely even end up in any sort of long-term monogamous relationship with their favorite sex partner.  Manipulative women usually end up marrying the guy who is the most willing to help them raise children and/or the guy who is the most willing to provide for them financially.   Then, many of them engage in adulterous extramarital affairs with their favorite lovers on-the-side (who are usually womanizing Alpha males).  Women do not need to be married or be involved in a long-term monogamous relationship in order to secure most men’s sexual companionship.

If you want to read more about my thoughts on sexual duplicity, please check out my book, Oooooh … Say it Again: Mastering the Fine Art of Verbal Seduction and Aural Sex.

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Alan Roger Currie is the author of a number of eBooks, paperbacks, and audiobooks, and is best known for the ground-breaking best-seller “Mode One: Let the Women Know What You’re REALLY Thinking”; Currie is also a professional Men’s Dating Coach who has worked with clients all over the world, and has conducted speaking engagements and workshops in many cities both in the U.S. and internationally. Contact him at

  • Kendra Justine

    This is the first time I’ve heard of anything like this, at the very least it’s very interesting. I’m not sure I agree with it entirely although I’m sure there are people who may fit this description. When I read the description of the “sexually “duplicitous” women you describe in the article…it kind of sounds like a gold digger… A woman who uses men for their financial prosperity in order to survive. Now, I do know that many women don’t display themselves sexually in public. Hence, the saying, “Lady in the streets and freak in the sheets.” But…this sounds much different. Men need to be wise enough to find genuine women…which there are many of. Like attract like. I believe men who attract “sexually “duplicitous”women are just as manipulative as the “sexually “duplicitous”women described.

    • Alan Roger Currie
      • Kendra Justine

        Interesting article. I was not aware that there were so many “pretender type” females. I know many women who engage in phone sex and dirty talk during sex, that is a natural part of the process. If I was seeking to engage in “dirty talk” with a man, I don’t see any issues with that. I would only consider it disrespectful if it was coming from a man who I never led on or enticed in a sexual way. In my generation, I don’t think it’s a secret that women can be turned on in many different ways. To think a woman can only be turned on by physical touch is pure nonsense. Women get aroused in MANY different ways.

        • Alan Roger Currie

          “Women get aroused in MANY different ways” = NO TRUER WORDS HAVE EVER BEEN SPOKEN. 😉

  • Shannon Lawson

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    Mooooooooooode Ooooooooooone!

  • Robert

    All women are closet sluts and closet gold diggers!! LOL!

    • I would not say “all women” are … but a good number of them are. For sure

  • Cyberwarrior

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  • Cloud Air

    this is totally depressing unless you’re just out there screwing women without a care in the world

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  • I like this article of yours much better than the other one about sexual duplicity

  • Mario Rodriguez

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  • : jonathan

    mode one always exposes closet sluts!

  • DoubleD

    great article alan

  • Amber Rose

    I am a slut and there is nothing you men can do about it!! LOL

  • Draygold

    I love all of your audiobooks Alan! I have learned so much from you man. Thank you for all of your knowledge and wisdom and excellent dating advice!

  • Anderson

    Alan, this is a very red pill article. This supports the notion of “Alpha fux / Beta bucks” Enjoyed the read #modeone


    A much better article than the one where you are attempting to defend sluts

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