Should You Date A Black Democrat Woman?

With so many Black women voting Democrat and being on the Hard Left, is it wise to date them?

Gentlmen, behold the so-called "Cocktail Queens" and their Nov 3, 2020 discussion on YouTube's "Fox Soul" channel" "Would You Date a Black Man if He Voted for Trump?"
Gentlmen, behold the so-called “Cocktail Queens” and their Nov 3, 2020 discussion on YouTube’s “Fox Soul” channel” “Would You Date a Black Man if He Voted for Trump?”

“Tho’ this was a confounded lie, my friend, ‘all is fair in love and war’.”
-The Relapse, or Myrtle Bank, 1789

The elections of 2020 have been a lot of things to a lot of people, and the die has yet to be cast; while the mainstream media is “calling it for Biden”, the Trump White House vows to fight on in the form of high court legal challenges to what they see as rampant voter fraud. Either way, one thing is for certain: That “lovin'” will continue to happen in Black America.

But this year’s election cycle has shown everyone just how deep and profound the real differences along political lines has split the genders in Black America. As my last column pointed out and cited an excellent piece appearing on the Vox website earlier this spring bears out (“Why I Am A Black Republican – & You Should Be, Too”, Nov 3, 2020,, a significant percentage of Black men are increasingly voting for the GOP, while easily 90% or more Black women are rabidly Democrat. And while political affiliations do indeed signal important values about a person, a very real question emerges: How is all this gonna play itself out on these dating and mating streets?

After giving the matter a bit of thought, I think I might have the answer.

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First, we have to face a cold, hard fact: Black women are not just part of the American voting public, they’re the singlemost reliable voting bloc the Democrat Party has. They are also the most engaged and outspoken – and, as this year’s elections have seen, are not at all adverse to voicing their disdain at Black men who stray off the Democrat plantation.

If you’re a conservative Black man – and I strongly suspect a high percentage of Non-Select Guys are – you will have to be prepared to deal with this in the days, weeks, months and indeed quite possibly years ahead. Black women writ large are quite “politicized”, and huge numbers of them are to lesser or greater degrees “activists” who lead their lives by wearing their pet causes and the like on their sleeves – so there’s no point in attempting to sidestep any of this with them.

Instead, your correspondent counsels a “lean in” approach – when they discuss political issues of whatever sort, instead of attempting to change the subject, you let them know what your views on the matter are, and stick to them(!). If the matter is police brutality (read: “racism”), reproductive rights, healthcare, #MeToo, etc., et. al. don’t be afraid to let them know how often they are just wrong, wrong, wrong – and then pepper them with facts, data and research (all the better if you can fetch them from Left of center sources!). Don’t be afraid to enter into a “debate” with such ladies – and I know what some of you are going to say – that its simply better to move on to someone else. Newsflash, homie: WITH ALMOST ONE HUNDRED PERCENT OF BLACK WOMEN VOTING DEMOCRAT, THERE AIN’T NOBODY ELSE – unless you’re talking about dating outside of Black America altogether – in which case I totally understand.

But for those of us who still love the sistas, may God have mercy on our souls, the only way out, is through. Black women are a fiesty lot to begin with, so what’s one more bout of witty repartee, right?

Now, there will be some who will read this and think “Aha! I knew it! Obsidian doesn’t know anything about Black women at all, and this proves it!” – because what I’m counseling appears to the uninitiated as a surefire way to talk/debate/argue your way OUT of the panties – right?

WRONG. And here’s why.

First, Black women, more than any other group of women, LOVE to argue, fuss ‘n’ fight; they actually get a sexual charge out of it(!). It’s true – and any Black man worth his salt out on these streets will readily agree with me. All the moreso if the Black man she’s having a hissy fit dustup with is on his A-Game when it comes to the facts and can demonstrate not only a keen command of such, but to do so in an erudite, eloquent manner, all with an air of bemusement at her “bratty kid sister” bromides and retorts. Black women know that most Black men WILL cowtow and do a “Yes, Dear” when push comes to shove – DON’T BE THAT GUY. Instead of caving to her Democrat leftist drivel, you sack up and let her know how and why her positions are nine times out of ten outright ridiculous – and all with a shit-eating grin.

She. Will. Love. It.

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As so many men in general and Non-Select Guys know in particular, all of the “lists” and caveats that Black women have ONLY APPLY TO THE BLACK MEN THEY ARE NOT SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO. We know this is true based on Black women’s dating and mating behavior itself – how many of them have banged and been banged by losers, jerks, gangbangers, sexists, misogynists, layabouts, freeloaders, womanziers and cheaters, deadbeats, baby daddies with numerous baby mamas in different area codes – BLACK DEMOCRATS ALL. So, miss me with the “I can’t date a Black Republican” nonsense.

Besides, it ain’t like all of this is gonna lead to a jumping of the broom anyway – more like a jumping of each other’s bones – so let’s cut the crap, shall we? After all, the Democrat Party itself bears out the fact that it is the party of baby mamas, spinsters and otherwise single women – and on that count, no one beats Black women.

No, whether a Black Democrat woman will date or otherwise “deal” (read: have sex with you) really comes down to, like everything else, whether they’re sexually attracted to you or not. The more they are, the less such trifles like who you voted for matters; and the less they are, the MORE who you voted for matters.

So, if a Black woman makes a big stink about you being a Black Republican (and you ain’t really all that bothered to tap it anyway), just chalk it up to her not being that tingled by you. Otherwise, put her in her political place, do a sly grin and on with the show!

My name is Mumia Obsidian Ali, proud Black Republican, and I approved this message!

Now adjourn your asses…


Mumia Obsidian Ali is a citizen journalist, podcaster, talk radio show host, newly minted dating coach and soon to be author. You can catch his daily live shows on the global livestreaming radio website Mixlr, as well as the all-new members-only Obsidian Radio Zoomcast, and his podcasts on YouTube and Black Avenger TV, as well as his weekly dating coach column at the Negromanosphere website. He’s also a semi-professional pest.

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