Ten Marriage Tips For Africans



1. Everyone You Marry Has A Weakness

There is no perfect human being. Only God has no weakness. Every rose flower has its own thorns. If you focus too much on your partner’s weaknesses, you can’t get the best out of his or her strengths.


2. Everyone You Marry Has A Dark History

The reality of life is that no one is an angel. Therefore, we sometimes need to avoid digging into one another’s past. What matters is the present life of your partner. Old things have passed away. The past can’t be changed. We need to focus on the present and the future.


3. Every Marriage Has Its Own Challenges

Marriage is not a bed of roses. Every shining marriage has gone through its own test of hot and excruciating fire. True love is proved in time of challenge. Fight for your marriage. Make up your mind to stay with your partner in time of needs. Remember this is the vow you made on your wedding day.


4. Every Marriage Has Different Levels of Success

Don’t compare your marriage with anyone. We can never be equal. Some will be far in front and others far behind. To avoid marriage stresses, be patient, work hard and with time, your marriage dreams will come true.


5. Marriage Is Like A Declaration of War

When you marry, you must declare a war against enemies of marriage. Some of the enemies of marriage are: ignorance, rumours,  prayerlessness, unforgiveness, stinginess, stubbornness, rudeness, battery, laziness, nagging, pride, etc. You must be ready to fight to maintain your marriage zone.


6. There Is No Perfect Marriage

There is no ready made marriage anywhere. Marriage is hard work. You have to volunteer yourself and perfect it daily. Marriage is like an automobile with a gear oil, gear box, and other parts. If these parts are not properly maintained, the car will break down somewhere along the road and expose the occupant to unhealthy circumstances. Many of us are careless about our marriage and we need to be careful.


7. God Won’t Give You The Complete Person You Desire

God gives you, her or him in form of raw materials in order for you to mold what you desire. You may desire a woman who looks like a character in the movies but it is your responsibility to make her look more beautiful. You have to treat her like a queen and see her as one.


8. Marriage Is A Risk

You cannot predict what will happen after marriage, as situation may change. So, leave a room for adjustment. Pregnancy may not come in the next four years. You may get married to her because she is slim but she becomes a little fat after a child. He may lose his beautiful job for years that you have to take the financial responsibility of the family until he gets a new job. These are part of the things you may experience in marriage.


9. Marriage Is A Contract

Marriage needs total commitment, love is the glue that makes a couple stick together. Divorce starts in the mind. Never think of divorce. Never threaten your spouse with divorce. Choose to remain married. God hates divorce, although it is permitted only in extreme cases.


10. Every MarriageHas Its Price

Marriage is like a bank account. It is the money you deposit into your bank account that you can withdraw. If you don’t deposit love, peace and care into your marriage, you are not a candidate of a blissful home. There is no free love in marriage, You cannot love without giving and sacrificing.

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