Women want to know that a man can take care of himself. They want a guy who is capable and independent, able to make his own decisions, pay his rent, and cook dinner for himself. Despite what you might think, no woman wants to be your mother, who will always tell you what to do and what not to do. A woman needs a man who can use his own initiative. A guy who is in constant need of reassurance, companionship, help, motivation, and advice is a turnoff.
It is truly one of their great virtues that women are willing to spend so much time in our company despite our undeniably simian appearance.
Still, despite their good nature, women care about looks too (if not quite as much as men do). Thus, it wouldn’t hurt to at least try to minimize the degree to which you remind them of a monkey. Women are not asking for much. Try to keep yourself well-groomed. Wear clothes that fit, and at least make an effort to keep yourself in shape.
Positivity is another great attribute that attracts women. Cynicism and sarcasm have their place, but nobody wants to be with someone who is sarcastic and cynical all of the time. It’s exhausting. By contrast, being in the presence of someone with a positive outlook on life can actually be energizing. An optimistic person makes others feel good; his optimism can be contagious, even inspiring. That is why it is one of the things women want in a man.
Communication is important in getting women to your side. Women place a priority on guys they can talk to, who can express themselves and who are at least willing to listen to them when they talk about their concerns, hopes and desires. You should also know that the communication skill that trumps all others is the ability to be attentive. Sometimes, all a woman needs you to do is listen. If you can show a woman you have the capacity to pay attention to her, it will radically improve your chances.
You also need to be social to win women. A woman wants a guy who can carry on a conversation with her coworkers at a dinner party and also has the good sense not to swear in front of her mother. Women are attracted to a man with a high social intelligent quotient. They don’t want a robot or the strong silent type. Perhaps, most of all, they just want to know you won’t go catatonic when faced with a group of people you don’t know. To them, you should be able to mix with people easily and carry on smoothly. And, you shouldn’t forget to be smart, too. Many women find smartness sexy. Avoid running your mouth on subjects you know nothing about. Better to be suspected a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubts.
Women also want a man that has passion. The reasons should be pretty obvious. If a woman is thinking about spending any time with you, she would like to know that she can look forward to adventure, excitement, devotion, and great sex. Therefore, if a guy wants to be wanted, he has to show a woman he is passionate. Women love to see that you are passionate, because in their minds, passion in one sphere of life can be transferred into another sphere of life, even into the bedroom. Lol.
A good sense of humor is another attribute women almost always mention when listing off the things they look for in a man. We all know how much more fun funny people are than dull, grumpy people. Now this does not mean you need to be the life of the party. You just have to be diplomatically funny and you will have your way with her. Women typically don’t gravitate toward drunken buffoons. A good sense of humor just means you know how to tell and take a joke.
Confidence is one of the greatest attributes women consistently say they want in a man. Confidence is king. A woman wants a man who can stand uprightly and say what is in his mind without fidgeting. That means even if you can’t categorize yourself as the total package, as long as you feel good about what you have to offer, and as long as you’re comfortable with yourself, you have a shot with women. In those days, I had a girlfriend. When I first met her, I went into her parents sitting room to propose love to her when I knew her parents were not at home. She respected me for that and said yes. Her thinking was, for a man to come into her parents house to propose love to her, that man must be confident.