You’re out with your homeboys at the local bar blowing off some steam after a hard day’s work. One of your buddies is complaining about his wife not giving him any ass for two weeks and counting, one is excited about the new girl he just started dating (she’s a swallower), one is talking about different way’s he’d like to kill his boss, and another is just happy to be out of the house away from his kids. Nothing out of the ordinary.
You take another sip of your whiskey when you lock eyes with a hot brunette with long curly hair, sizeable tits (at last a C-cup), and long sexy legs. This isn’t incidental eye contact where you happened to be looking at each other at the same time. No…this is the kind of eye contact where both parties are sexually attracted to one another and are looking to get to know each other better.
Judging by her body, it’s obvious she works out. But does her ass match the rest of her body? Knowing there’s only one way to find out, you get up and walk over to her, look her right in the eye and introduce yourself.
The conversation flows freely and easily as the two of you engage in the coquettish game of tug-of-war teasing one another, flirting hard, and moving toward a seemingly inevitable conclusion. Things are looking great so far but just as you’re ready to settle in and move in for the kill…
“Yo Donovan! We gotta roll man! Let’s go!”
Shit. In your mild hypnotic state of pickup you forgot it’s a week night and you’ve gotta be up early to hit the gym for leg day. Plus, you’re the driver tonight so there’s no way you can leave your boys high and dry just so you can try and fuck this broad (bros before bitches guys). By the same token, this ample ass perky titted white girl was definitely feelin’ your game and all signs point to adding her to your roster.
No big deal. You’ve been in this situation before so you’ll just get her number, run rock solid text game, set a weekend meet up where you’ll most assuredly tap that ass…or do you give her your number and wait for her to call to make sure she’s really interested??
This is a long standing debate amongst the purveyors of Game, specifically within the manosphere:
Do you ask for her number or do you give her yours?
While there are many certified players who advocate that you should give her your number, I am diametrically opposed to this strategy. I am firmly in the you get her number camp myself. This isn’t to say the other technique is wrong or that my stance is right. But there are plenty of compelling reasons why it’s always best to get her number rather than the other way around.
You’re in control…and girls like it
Within the context of the sexual marketplace, most women are choosers and most men are chosen. There are many exceptions to this rule but because women have far more opportunities to have sex with men than the opposite, women have the ratio advantages as far as natural selection goes.
Think about it. When you go to the club there are always more available dudes than available chicks. This makes the females the choosers and the males the chosen. Same thing happens at a bar. For every one girl who’s there looking for dick, there are 3 or 4 guys looking for pussy.
When you give a girl your phone number after a conversation, you are giving her the control. She decides when to call or text you. She decides whether or not the interaction continues. She decides whether or not to ghost on you or play games with you. As much fun as girls think this is, it’s not really what they want…at least not from the men they’re attracted to.
Women are neither attracted to nor do they respect a man who is not in control. If she’s the one in charge making all the decisions she is not relaxed. And any man with trace amounts of red pill awareness knows that if a woman is not relaxed a woman is not going to fuck you. This is why relationships that are lead by women are always destined to fail because it’s not the natural state of things.
Women who are led by men are always relaxed and happy because they can be the feminine women they want to be. They can be kind, attentive, and sexual at all times because her man is the one in control. No matter what women say they don’t want to in control of anything. So if she has your number she is in control and that is not what she wants.
Further, women don’t want to be the choosers, they want to be the chosen. This is why women don’t propose to men. In her mind she thinks “I proposed and he said yes but did he say yes because he loves me or because I asked him?” It’s the same concept with phone numbers. She has your phone number, sure, but when she texts you and you text back she’s going to think “Is he texting me because he likes me, or because I texted him and he’s just being polite?”
A girl wants to know that you chose her. She wants to know you texted her because you are romantically interested in her. If you’re the one pushing the interaction forward and proactively showing interest, she never doubts your attraction to her. Giving her control by giving her your number from the onset sets bad precedent. But getting her number sets the tone for the relationship. That tone being I’m in control and I am the leader.
This is exactly what girls want.
Girls respect boldness
If we’re keepin’ it 100, any man can give out his phone number to 100 women a day. A woman is far less likely to reject a man who gives her his phone number than the opposite so there’s much less risk involved for the man.
Getting a girl to give up her digits? Now there’s a challenge. Women can take a man’s number to be polite with absolutely no intention of contacting him. But if a man asks a woman for her phone number, she can reject him by simply telling him no.
A man who gives a woman his phone number is taking the easy way out and the woman knows it. Sure, she could call or text him later on if she’s attracted enough to him but unless he looks like the love child of Shemar Moore and Denzel Washington or drives a Lamborghini she probably won’t. And part of the reason is that he didn’t put his balls on the line and ask for her number.
Truly going for it with a woman by asking her for her number puts you ahead of 95% of men out there who take the easy, less risky approach of handing her his information. Girls respect boldness in men and respect is the single most important ingredient when it comes to sustained attraction and arousal.
Still not buying it? Okay let me ask you this question: Which is more impressive? A) A guy who gives his number to 74 women or B) A guy who gets 27 numbers from women? I’ll wait…
For those of you willing to admit that the answer is B, congratulations. You’ve taken the first step in separating yourself from most men. For those of you trying to justify why A is more impressive, save it. It’s okay that you’re afraid of rejection. We all are to a certain extent because rejection sucks. Trust me, I’ve experienced plenty of it. But disingenuously declaring that machine gunning your number to anyone with a vagina is more impressive than getting women to give up their digits is your pride talking. Admitting that you’re afraid of rejection is the only way to get over it and become better with women. Making excuses to avoid the difficulties of women and pickup game will get you nowhere but back at your laptop jerking off to porn…again.
Fortune favors the bold, gentlemen and so do women.
As I stated before, many veterans of the game regularly give their phone numbers to women rather than taking my approach. But a lot of men take this tact thinking they’ll get the same results but fail to realize that men who utilize this technique have far more experience with women meaning their game level is naturally higher.
If you’ve got little to no experience with women, giving out your phone number will severely handicap you and stunt your success if not put a stop to it all together. While you’re at home waiting on the 12 girls you gave your number to to text you, the guy who got 3 phone numbers is up to is eye balls in conversation trying to decide which of the 3 girls he’s gonna take out.
You can only have consistent success giving out your number to women if you’re already good with women. But if you’re not Alan Roger Currie, Steve “The Dean” Williams, or Donovan Sharpe you’re not only failing before you start, but you’re giving yourself an excuse not to push yourself and take your game to the next level.
Donovan is a sexist son of a bitch who objectifies women by keeping them on their toes, their backs, and their knees where they belong. Although he’s been banned on Twitter and YouTube, that doesn’t stop him from dropping red pill truth every weekday afternoon at 4:30EST on TSR: Live with Donovan Sharpe. Add him on Facebook and follow him on Instagram.