“So, are you single and detatched?” a nondiscript, brown-skinned Caribbean young lady asks right in front of my girlfriend, ignoring the obvious of how unavailable I am.
Now granted, of course, for the rest of our holiday on the Grenadian island of Carriacou, I had to play it off with my baby’s attitude. As if it were my fault ole girl had more nerve than a toothache to push up on a taken man.
Then again, I’m forever thankful that I was in a relationship with this particular lady at the time, because had it been with her predecessor (a straight outta L.A., Matrix, USA wanna be queen) the situation may have gone left. . . with plenty of spare left hooks upside Ms. Thang’s pretty little head.
Anyway, for whatever goofy reason, women worldwide will be drawn to a man who has a significant other in his life. A wedding band on a man’s hand is a chick magnet.
I’ve lost so many side chicks AFTER I got divorced! They stopped taking my calls and texts!
No, no, it’s true. I can’t make this up.
Okay, fastforward to present day. There I am, chillin’ in the chatroom of Black male YouTuber Solotv 84, at the tailend of a smoking-hot topic, when a few Brothers and I start to go back and forth on this phenomenon: Why do women love unavailable men?
The Thrill of Being Bad
Look, while not pretending to be a dating coach or relationship expert, I am an O.G. in seeing past the typical bullsh*t females dole out on a daily basis. During my teens, 20’s, and 30’s, I experienced more than a few dealings with women whom knew I was a married man but agreed to my program anyway.
Besides the excitement, the thrill of being a bad girl, why else would they say “Yes” to being a side chick? Hey, I stopped asking that question years ago.
See, according to the certified and licensed psychological experts, there’s credible research on why they do what they do. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/insight-is-2020/201206/why-women-love-lust-after-unavailable-men-traumatic-love?page=1
Well, thank goodness for their “profound insecurities and self-esteem issues.” If not for this, the entire side piece industry would plummet like a bad stock in a defunct company.
Hoping She Can Change Him
“Gurl, his wife’s such a b*tch,” a random side chick claims to one of her girlfriends. “He’s just staying for the kids but he just doesn’t know that I’m a better woman for him. I can change him.”
Now how many of us men within the Negromanosphere Red Pill Community have ever heard this from a female? I know, right?
There must be some written rule within the bargining agreement of the Side Chick Union, requiring them to subject themselves to months, even years, of literally bending over backwards in the hope of winning over the heart of somebody else’s man. Even if a man decides to end his marriage or relationship, these women fail to realize that it still doesn’t guarantee he’ll wife up any of his numerous lovers on the side.
Oops! Did I just say “numerous?”
Yes, ladies, just like you own a closetful of shoes, we men take pride in keeping a stable of you within our rotation. So, go on, and take it personally because you have no one to blame but yourselves.
Now don’t get it twisted, I have the utmost respect for you side chicks. Like the main chick, aka bottom b*tch, aka wife, you have your purpose.
Just know, that whatever you do, you’ll never “change” us. You’d be better off if you accept the reality of what and who we are: men who’ll exercise our options.
Cutting Her From the Team
Finally, if you’re a man of proaction, of maintaining control of your environment, you’ll eventually have to cut, if not one, all of your jump offs from your team. Like gravity, it’s part of the laws of physics.
Whether you use modern day technology via cell phone texting or social media direct messaging, making cuts is actually the responsible thing to do. It’s not only healthy for you but for your other women as well.
“But I thought you loved me,” another random side chick anthem.
Speaking for all men here, ladies, it’s the life you choose. So, you might as well buck up, and take it like a good woman.
Don’t go away mad, just go away. We can still be friends, right?
Marcus love is a published author. You can scoop up his most recent Broke and Ashy urban eNovella series at an Amazon Kindle near you.