What Aspects of a Woman’s Companionship are REALLY Important to Men?

Dating Coach Alan Roger Currie asks the question to the male readers of his column: What aspects of a woman's companionship are most important in a long-term romantic relationship and/or marriage?

First, a “homework assignment”:

A)  Watch these two video podcasts on YouTube:

1) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AyBM8LR96xw

2) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TY1HMrTOa5k

B)  Read these articles:

1) https://negromanosphere.com/why-men-want-true-love/

2) https://negromanosphere.com/womens-sexual-companionship-exclusively/

3) https://negromanosphere.com/casual-sex/

Done watching the two videos?  Finished reading the three articles?  Good.  Thank you.  Let’s continue . . .

A RECENT CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN

Below is a slightly paraphrased transcript of a conversation I had with a woman approximately two weeks ago.

WomanWell, I have to let you know Alan … jumping into bed with a man soon after I meet him … without him taking the time to get to know me first … is not really my thing.

AlanWell, similarly … I have to let you know … treating a woman to a free lunch or a free dinner … without her agreeing to engage in sexual relations with me first … is not really my thing.

WomanI refuse to be ‘used’ and taken advantage of sexually

AlanI refuse to be ‘used’ and taken advantage of non-sexually

Woman:  (laughs)  Alan, that is ridiculous. How can a woman ‘use’ a man non-sexually?

AlanIs that a real question?

Woman:  (giggles)  It sure is! I mean, you could have sex with me … and then just go ‘ghost’ on me.  You could get what you want … and then choose to totally ignore me and never speak to me again

Alan:  (chuckles)  Surely, you jest.  You seem to be very one-sided in your thinking

WomanHow so Mr. Currie?

AlanI mean, you could just allow me to treat you to lunch and/or dinner … and then just go ‘ghost’ on me as well.  You could enjoy a lengthy, flattering and entertaining conversation with me … and then choose to totally ignore me and never speak to me again

WomanWell, in my opinion, it’s not really the same thing.  I don’t really do casual sex

AlanIt very much is the same thing.  And just for the record … I don’t really do purely platonic friendships

WomanWhat’s wrong with spending time with a woman without sex being involved?  Men do this all the time!

AlanWhat’s wrong with spending time with a man sexually without a lunch date or dinner date being involved?  Women do this all the time.  Trust me on this

WomanWomen who immediately jump into bed with a man that they just met are sluts.  They are hos (whores)

AlanMen who immediately offer to treat a woman to a free meal are financially generous non-sexual ‘sluts.’ They are simps

WomanIf you say so

AlanI say so

If you did not learn anything else from this conversation of mine, you should have learned at least two things:

1)    The vast majority of women want free, quick, and easy access to men’s non-sexual time, attention, and companionship … but they want men to invest a significant amount of time, effort, and even money into pursuing them before they give a man access to their sexual companionship

2)    I will not allow women to get away with hypocritical behavior.  I always let women know:  I place just as much value on my non-sexual time, attention, and companionship as women place on their sexual time, attention, and companionship

SPEAKING OF SEXUAL COMPANIONSHIP vs. NON-SEXUAL COMPANIONSHIP

If you took time to watch those two video podcasts of mine that I recommended, you know that the primary theme of each was evaluating the desirability and appeal of women’s sexual companionship vs. their non-sexual companionship.

Let me ask you:  When you think about spending time with a woman … what do you find appealing about her companionship other than the prospect of experiencing sexual enjoyment and satisfaction with her?

SURVEY for MEN:  1000 POINTS TO BE DISTRIBUTED OVER TEN (10) ATTRIBUTES

If you have some time, I would like you to participate in an informal survey of mine.

I am going to give each male reader of this article one-thousand (1,000) points to be distributed over ten (10) desirable attributes.  You must use a bare minimum of eleven (11) points for each of the ten attributes … and the maximum number of points that can be allocated to any one attribute is nine-hundred (900) points.

Ready?  Set?  You can begin!

ATTRIBUTE #1:  A WOMAN’S OVERALL PHYSICAL APPEARANCE, PERSONAL HYGIENE, and GROOMING

POINTS ALLOCATED for this particular ATTRIBUTE:  _____________________________

ATTRIBUTE #2:  A WOMAN’S DESIRE TO REMAIN FAITHFULLY and STRICTLY MONOGAMOUS TO YOU SEXUALLY INDEFINITELY

POINTS ALLOCATED for this particular ATTRIBUTE:  _____________________________

ATTRIBUTE #3:  A WOMAN’S OVERALL LEVEL OF INTELLIGENCE, ‘STREET SMARTS,’ and/or FORMAL EDUCATION

POINTS ALLOCATED for this particular ATTRIBUTE:  _____________________________

ATTRIBUTE #4:  A WOMAN’S LEVEL OF CAREER SUCCESS and/or FINANCIAL SUCCESS

POINTS ALLOCATED for this particular ATTRIBUTE:  _____________________________

ATTRIBUTE #5:  A WOMAN’S WILLINGNESS TO GIVE BIRTH TO ONE OR MORE CHILDREN FOR YOU and HER OVERALL MATERNAL INSTINCTS & QUALIFICATIONS TO BE A GOOD MOTHER TO YOUR SON(S) and/or DAUGHTER(S)

POINTS ALLOCATED for this particular ATTRIBUTE:  _____________________________

ATTRIBUTE #6:  A WOMAN’S DEGREE OF KINKINESS and HER LEVEL OF EROTIC OBEDIENCE & SUBMISSIVENESS IN THE BEDROOM

POINTS ALLOCATED for this particular ATTRIBUTE:  _____________________________

ATTRIBUTE #7:  A WOMAN’S ABILITY TO MAINTAIN AN ENTERTAINING and INTERESTING CONVERSATION WITH YOU

POINTS ALLOCATED for this particular ATTRIBUTE:  _____________________________

ATTRIBUTE #8:  A WOMAN’S DEGREE OF CLASS, SOCIAL REFINEMENT, and ABSENCE OF ANY SORT OF ‘PROMISCUOUS PAST’ (i.e., SHE HAD NO REPUTATION FOR BEING A ‘SLUT’ WITH MULTIPLE MALE SEX PARTNERS PRIOR TO DATING YOU)

POINTS ALLOCATED for this particular ATTRIBUTE:  _____________________________

ATTRIBUTE #9:  A WOMAN’S WILLINGNESS TO COOK FOR YOU and KEEP YOUR PLACE OF RESIDENCE CLEAN & ORGANIZED

POINTS ALLOCATED for this particular ATTRIBUTE:  _____________________________

ATTRIBUTE #10:  A WOMAN’S LEVEL OF HONESTY, MORAL CHARACTER, and OVERALL INTEGRITY

POINTS ALLOCATED for this particular ATTRIBUTE:  _____________________________

Remember:  Each of the ten attributes must be allocated a bare minimum of eleven (11) points each, and no one attribute can be allocated more than nine-hundred (900) points.  Also, don’t take the ‘easy way out’ and simply allocate each of the ten attributes one-hundred (100) points each.  If you choose to do that, it would totally defeat the purpose of identifying which of the attributes is most important to you in a (long-term) female companion … and which of the attributes is least important to you in a (long-term) female companion.

If you want to share your survey results publicly, please do so below (either via Facebook or DISQUS).  If you want to share your results privately with me, send them to coaching@modeone.net

Thank you for your participation!

Note: Columnist Alan Roger Currie will not have a published article posted on the following dates due to his travel schedule and/or vacation plans:

  • Monday, December 24, 2018
  • Monday, December 31, 2018
  • Monday, January 7, 2019

Senior writer Alan Roger Currie was recently named the 2017 Charles Tyler Freelance Writer & Columnist of the Year for the NegroManosphere.com, and he was also named the NegroManosphere.com’s 2017 Best Dating Coach for Men on YouTube and 2017 Black Male YouTube Personality of the Year. More about Alan Roger Currie can be found on Wikipedia.org; Visit Currie’s main website to find out more about his Email consultations, Skype & Telephone consultations, and One-on-One / Face-to-Face Coaching sessions. Currie also has an active YouTube channel where he offers his own unique brand of knowledge, wisdom, insight, and general advice related to dating and relationships. If you are a single heterosexual man, and you want advice on how to develop the confidence and courage to be more upfront, specific and straightforwardly honest about your sexual desires, interests, and intentions with women, check out Currie’s eBooks, paperbacks, and audiobooks. Currie has been a featured speaker at many dating advice workshops for men in the United States as well as internationally. Currie was the first African-American to be a featured speaker at The 21 Convention and was a featured speaker for the second time on Saturday, October 13, 2018 in Orlando, Florida. If you want to become a Patreon.com subscriber of Dating Coach Alan Roger Currie, CLICK HERE

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Alan Roger Currie is the author of a number of eBooks, paperbacks, and audiobooks, and is best known for the ground-breaking best-seller "Mode One: Let the Women Know What You're REALLY Thinking"; Currie is also a professional Men's Dating Coach who has worked with clients all over the world, and has conducted speaking engagements and workshops in many cities both in the U.S. and internationally. Contact him at coaching@modeone.net