Young Black Men Need to Cut Back on ‘Electronic Communication’

Some men make the mistake of relying way too much on text messages as their primary form of communication with women

Being a professional Dating Coach for men, if there is one bad habit that many of my male clients have adopted – and particularly men between the ages of 18 and 29 – it would be the poor habit of using various means of ‘electronic communication’ with women of interest way too much.

THE ERA OF ELECTRONIC COMMUNICATION WITH WOMEN

The advent of the internet and the introduction of smartphones have changed the manner in which people communicate with each other big time.  We now have communication that takes place in the form of email messages, instant messaging, social media inboxes and direct messages, and smartphone text messaging.

The problem with all of this ‘high tech’ communication is that many men have come to rely way too much on it for their primary form of instantaneous communication with women of interest.  This is a problem.  Why?

YOU CAN EVALUATE PEOPLE BETTER BY HEARING THEIR VOICE

I have mentioned many times in my books and audio & video podcasts that I can evaluate people much better by listening to their voice.  Particularly women.

I can generally get a sense of what type of woman a female is by hearing her voice and listening to her speak.  Characteristics such as what type of intelligence she has, her sense of sensuality, how she was raised by her mother and/or father, and what type of moral character and integrity she has.

Ideally, most of a man’s early communications with women should happen face-to-face.  As a man, you want to be able to observe a woman’s facial expressions and overall body language as you converse with her.  If an opportunity for face-to-face interaction is not yet possible, take every opportunity to speak to this woman over-the-phone or even using Skype audio & video.

Absorb everything about this woman’s full essence as you talk to her.  Observe how she responds to certain questions and comments of yours.

LISTENING TO A WOMAN’S VOICE and HER LISTENING TO YOUR VOICE IS CRUCIAL TO DEVELOPING SEXUAL CHEMISTRY

When it comes to creating romantic and sexual chemistry with a new female acquaintance, being involved in conversation with a woman face-to-face is crucial.

When all you do with women is exchange email messages with them, exchange inbox messages or direct messages via social media, or exchange text messages through your smartphone, you are preventing yourself from establishing high-quality chemistry with that woman.

Written words simply do not have the same effect as spoken words.  There is no ‘human energy’ behind the words when they are displayed on a text message.  Conversely, when a man communicates with a woman either face-to-face or at a minimum, via the telephone, there is a certain degree of ‘human energy’ transferred during those conversations.

WHEN SHOULD A MAN USE TEXT MESSAGES TO COMMUNICATE WITH WOMEN?

Should a man completely avoid using text messages to communicate with women?  No, not at all.  There are certain times when communicating via smartphone text messages is appropriate.

For example, let’s say you have set up a dinner date with a woman during a telephone conversation with her.  You two have agreed to meet at a certain restaurant at a given time on a given day.  When you are in route to the restaurant, it is more than okay to text the woman and say, “I am on my way to the restaurant.  I should arrive at 7:45 PM.”

Similarly, let’s say you two have completed your dinner date, and you are on your way home and so is she.  It is fine and appropriate to text her and say, “Did you make it home okay?  I surely hope so.  I enjoyed the conversation we had tonight during dinner.”

Once a man and a woman have engaged in sexual activities at least once or twice, then it is far more appropriate to exchange a lot of thoughts with each other via text message.   Once a man and a woman have exchanged mutually beneficial and pleasurable orgasms together, both will definitely experience a higher degree of sexual chemistry between them that can now be felt even via text messages.  Before sex happens for the first time, text messaging with a woman should be kept at a bare minimum.

TOO MUCH TEXTING GIVES OFF THE IMPRESSION THAT YOU HAVE NO SOCIAL LIFE

Men need to be wary of communicating with women too much via electronic forms of interpersonal communication.  One reason being, it gives women the impression that you have ‘too much free time’ at your disposal.  All things considered, this is not a good look.

As a man, you always want women to be under the impression that you have your own ‘life’ that does not necessarily include them.  This lets women know that your time, attention, and companionship has some ‘value’ to it.  Women will respect a man a lot more when she knows that his time has a sense of value attached to it.

FINAL RECOMMENDATION

From the time you first meet a woman until the time you two first engage in sexual activities, most of your conversations with a woman should be either face-to-face or via the phone.  Keep your electronic communication with women at a bare minimum.  You will notice the benefits of following this rule in the long-run.  Trust.

More about Alan Roger Currie can be found on Wikipedia.org; Visit Currie’s main website to find out more about his Email consultations, Skype & Telephone consultations, and One-on-One / Face-to-Face Coaching sessions.  Currie also has an active YouTube channel where he offers his own unique brand of knowledge, wisdom, insight, and general advice related to dating and relationships.  If you are a single heterosexual man, and you want advice on how to develop the confidence and courage to be more upfront, specific and straightforwardly honest about your sexual desires, interests, and intentions with women, check out Currie’s eBooks, paperbacks, and audiobooks.  Currie will be a featured speaker at the 10th Anniversary Edition of The 21 Convention in Orlando, Florida (USA).  For more information, visit https://the21convention.org/arc

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Alan Roger Currie is the author of a number of eBooks, paperbacks, and audiobooks, and is best known for the ground-breaking best-seller "Mode One: Let the Women Know What You're REALLY Thinking"; Currie is also a professional Men's Dating Coach who has worked with clients all over the world, and has conducted speaking engagements and workshops in many cities both in the U.S. and internationally. Contact him at coaching@modeone.net